| When I first became a single dad of a two and | | | | single parents in my community were young |
| a half-year-old energetic baby boy, I knew | | | | mothers. Some of them were surprise and even |
| that it was not going to be a piece of cake. | | | | supportive once they found out that I was s |
| however, I did not think that I would lose | | | | singel father of a three year old.It was |
| two jobs and get fired from another because | | | | unusual for some of them to see a male |
| of him. But I did. I never ventured out to be | | | | actually taking a part in his child's |
| a stay-at-home dad. But, being at home with | | | | life.Denver has long been settled in school |
| my son was something I soon learned to | | | | now. However, it took a while for him to get |
| appreciate. At first I was wondering, what | | | | use the the routine. I had to sit with him, |
| would others think of me, a very healthy and | | | | in his class everyday because of behavior |
| strong mature man sitting around the house | | | | problems, I hold myself at fault for being |
| everday? However, it was not just sitting | | | | off at work everyday and some unskilled |
| around the house everyday, I was going to the | | | | caregivers, I had him with at the time, for |
| supermarket, cooking, washing dishes, doing | | | | his behavior That is when I learned that |
| the launday changing diapers,disciplining, | | | | valued lession, and that is children crave to |
| teaching, soon getting my son off to school | | | | have parent at home full time.After learning |
| everyday.I was also dealing with his behavior | | | | for lession, I still can't understand why |
| in school, and his teachers, and other school | | | | some parents of very young children would |
| officials. I was learning a new job along | | | | want to let complete strangers,including |
| with new skills htrough my on hand | | | | relatives, care for their children while they |
| experiences. I had soon given up the horrors | | | | are at work. I know that the rent, mortagage, |
| of having some complete stanger care for my | | | | and car payments and other bills have to be |
| while I was away at work. Actually, when he | | | | met. Most most would be losing out on all the |
| was with babysitters it seemed that his | | | | fun of being around young children can be. |
| behavior had gotten even worse than before. I | | | | |
| soon learned that a few people who called | | | | They would lost out on watching their |
| themselves babysitters or caregivers of small | | | | children grow up right in front of very eyes. |
| children, some did not like children. It was | | | | It is much fun listening to them trying to |
| all about the money.Therefore, in some | | | | learn how to talk. Young Children need their |
| meetings with them, I found some to have very | | | | parents more then their jobs need them as |
| attitudes, and had thoughts of how to best | | | | employees.If parents keep dumping their young |
| overcharge their clients whom some of them | | | | children off every morning and evening with |
| thought were in desperated need of their | | | | strangers, they will lose their children in |
| childcare services. Again, for some of them | | | | many ways. For example, the children will |
| it was a easy buck to call themselves | | | | grow up to act irresponible. They will have |
| caregivers of small children. Some of them | | | | no respect for their parents or anyone. They |
| should have taken some parenting classes | | | | will refuse to do household chores. They will |
| before calling themselves caregivers. They | | | | become demanding. They will start to fail in |
| needed to understand small children and their | | | | school.They may began breaking the law. And |
| needs.I have had many jobs offers during my | | | | some children may even grow up to dislike |
| stay-at-home ordeal. However, I reluctantly | | | | their parents for not being there.I heard |
| and temporarily turned them all down. | | | | some parents say, that their children drives |
| | | | them crazy. I say, it's the job of young |
| I did that for lots of reasons relating to | | | | children to make us a little crazy. If they |
| my young son and his care. Most notably was | | | | didn't give us headaches every now and then, |
| because I could no longer concentrate on the | | | | some would be worried. Therefore, stay at |
| job at hand and at what my employers expected | | | | home with young children until you are sure |
| of me, and what paid me for. When at some | | | | that he or she has firm footing to be |
| job, my thoughts would always be on my young | | | | successful without you being around all the |
| son, and what the caregivers where doing to | | | | time. I'm not avocating, that no one give up |
| him or what they were not doing for him.And | | | | a job, I'm just saying spend more time with |
| at the same time I was also going through a | | | | children and they will surely make you |
| very nasty divorce. That didn't help matters | | | | proud.copyright 2006 |
| any. But still I had to make a decision. In | | | | |
| the beginning, the decision would impact my | | | | a local Author and I live in Chicago. I'm |
| income, my stature in the community, and | | | | the father of a six year old. I'm basically a |
| maybe my self esteem. I would have to put off | | | | fiction writer. I have written books, |
| relocating, buying a house, and getting a | | | | articles, and working on a screenplay. Most |
| better car. We would live off my savings that | | | | of my stuff is filled with drama. I try to |
| I had the bank for our needs. Therefore, I | | | | write where the reader can learn something by |
| had finally my the decision of my life.So | | | | thinking about what they just read. |
| there I was, a stay-at-home dad.Most of the | | | | |