| I have bad news for the ladies out there | | | | wrong. |
| looking for a husband. Today's men are afraid | | | | |
| of marriage and having kids. This is most | | | | A vindictive parent can essentially steal the |
| likely because their male friends and | | | | child by moving the child far away, |
| relatives have told them what usually happens | | | | encouraging negative feelings and thoughts |
| in the event of a divorce with children. In | | | | the child has about the noncustodial parent, |
| fact, some men are calling for a marriage | | | | or filing a false domestic violence report. |
| strike. | | | | The way the laws are written today, a |
| | | | divorcing woman can report that her husband |
| I'm a liberal female father's advocate, | | | | was throwing things, say she's in fear, and |
| activist, writer and blogger. I've been | | | | with just her word she can get a temporary |
| studying the effect our current family law | | | | restraining order and emergency child custody |
| has on families, and why the laws are written | | | | order. One study showed half the temporary |
| the way they are. Unfortunately I have more | | | | restraining orders granted were for cases |
| bad news.We women have allowed radical | | | | where no physical harm was even claimed. |
| feminists to take over the feminist movement, | | | | Another showed the abuse claimed could not be |
| the one that used to stand for equality, and | | | | verified fifty-nine percent of the time. |
| they've been negatively influencing family | | | | |
| law. Now it's all about domination; in the | | | | The father in a case like this doesn't get a |
| case of divorce it's having complete control | | | | chance to face a judge or jury; he's |
| over the kids, house, money and dad's | | | | automatically considered guilty of abuse or |
| visitation time. | | | | potential abuse. This happens without proof |
| | | | of any wrongdoing, and can happen without his |
| Many fathers want equal physical custody of | | | | knowledge. Once she has the emergency custody |
| their children after a relationship break-up. | | | | order, he has very little, or in most cases |
| If women deserve equality, men do too, right? | | | | no chance of getting equal custody. Every day |
| Then why are feminists, who claim to be about | | | | innocent fathers visit their children in |
| equality, opposing us whenever we introduce | | | | jail-like supervised visitation centers and |
| equal-parenting laws? I've even seen them | | | | take anger management classes, sometimes for |
| lying during their testimony to a legislative | | | | years. Worse yet, some of these men not only |
| committee. They're also changing domestic | | | | are innocent of domestic violence, they're |
| violence laws to make them even more | | | | the victims. Some children of these innocent |
| anti-male, though the facts show males and | | | | men never see Daddy again. |
| females batter each other equally and mothers | | | | |
| abuse children more than fathers. | | | | The Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) has |
| | | | encouraged programs that promote the idea |
| Our country is in a fatherless crisis, yet | | | | that batterers are male, victims are female, |
| men who are natural hands-on daddies are | | | | and every child should be in the sole |
| scoffed at. These men who embrace fatherhood | | | | physical custody of it's mother. In other |
| are shown their time and influence aren't | | | | words, our government supports programs that |
| important. Our government does this by | | | | vilify men. The Violence Against Women Act |
| enforcing child support orders while not | | | | needs to be reformed or eliminated, and |
| enforcing visitation orders. Whether the | | | | I-VAWA, the international version, needs to |
| father had due process in court or not, | | | | be rejected. |
| whether blatant errors were made, when the | | | | |
| DNA test shows he's not the father, and even | | | | If we want men to embrace the idea of family |
| when there is no child, our government | | | | life, we need to ensure they have equality in |
| punishes fathers, including throwing them in | | | | family law. Equal parenting laws, favored by |
| jail, for getting behind in child support. | | | | 85% of people polled, need to be passed |
| | | | nationwide and a Federal Family Rights Act |
| The number one fear of children whose parents | | | | needs to be established immediately to |
| are divorcing is losing one parent. Yet | | | | protect families dealing with Child |
| millions of fathers, and some mothers are | | | | Protective Services and parents in divorce |
| prevented from having natural, fully | | | | and child custody cases. The time has come to |
| functioning, dedicated and loving | | | | restore human and civil rights to all fit |
| relationships with their children after | | | | parents. |
| divorce. Unmarried fathers face the same | | | | |
| problem. There are many men across the | | | | Now, back to looking for your husband. I've |
| country, single and divorced, who want equal | | | | been working with fathers in the equal |
| physical custody of their children, who want | | | | parenting movement for a few years now. These |
| to help with home work, meet with teachers, | | | | guys are some of the smartest and kindest |
| take the kids to the dentist, all the normal | | | | friends I've had, and some of the most loving |
| things parents do. | | | | and dedicated daddies I've ever met. They've |
| | | | experienced pain and injustice at the hands |
| Mothers and fathers tell me they don't | | | | of women. When they meet women who respect |
| believe 4 days and 4 evenings a month is | | | | them, who understand that most men make great |
| adequate time to develop the kind of | | | | parents, they return a special kind of |
| relationship necessary for the healthy | | | | respect and appreciation. Come join us; you |
| development of their children. In many cases | | | | can make new friends, and have the |
| the sole custodial parent even interferes | | | | satisfaction of helping a very honorable |
| with that limited time, and in some cases | | | | cause. And who knows, maybe you'll be at a |
| cuts the noncustodial parent completely off | | | | rally one day and meet your future husband. |
| from their child even if they've done nothing | | | | |